My dearest children,
I want to share with you something that I think you will need in years to come.
Life is never what it seems. There is never black or white, there are areas of grey and every color imaginable in between. I want you to remember that. Remember that because the world wants you to only see the two shades, and never the spectrum between.
Remember that everyone you see is fighting their own battle. Everyone was given this life because they are strong enough to live it, but there will be times of trial, trouble, and points where they will want to give up. It’s not for you to judge. Believe me, I know how hard that is. There will be people who you can’t stand, but there may be reasons behind it.
No matter what, let your faith be strong. You don’t have to go to church to be a good person. You simply have to KNOW your God, in your heart. He has a relationship with you that will be far above any other. Remember that, and you will be ok.
It’s ok to be different. If we were all the same, the world would be boring. It’s ok if your best friend is gay, bi, curious, atheist, goth, punk, shy, or whatever. It’s ok, and it’s not your place to judge. Be supportive and understanding.
Don’t pick on the ones that are different than you. Don’t be mean to those with special needs, they are just as beautiful as you. Be kind to everyone, even when it’s hard.
Get what you want, but don’t be a bully. Shoot for the stars or the moon. You can be successful when you try. You have your Dad’s ambition, you will be fine. “Shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”
School is simply that, school. It’s a device to teach children, but they only use one method. You might not learn that way, I don’t, your dad doesn’t. So don’t be too hard on yourself. Learn and try your best, that’s all we can ask. And when I freak out about a bad grade, try to remind me of this. 🙂
You will be beautiful in your own right. You don’t have to be a size zero to be beautiful, the media lies! Remember that. But do try to do something with your hair! You can dress how you want as long as you’re covered. But don’t join a gang, there’s no sense in that.
When you become sad or upset, about anything, come to us. We will figure it out together. There is no sense in holding it in. There is no shame in being upset, it just means that you need a little help, that’s what mommies and daddies are for! We’re here to help. If you feel alone, sad, or down, we’ve been there too. Come talk to me.
READ! I cannot stress that enough. Reading is a wonderful thing. Much better than movies. Reading allows you to live in worlds beyond your greatest imagination! You can soar through the skies on dragons, swim with mermaids, cast spells, save the kingdom! You can’t do that in movies. Your father will disagree, but believe me, you’ll want to read! The places you can go and the things you can see are amazing. Don’t ever give that up.
Your grandmother and I will be your best friend. But, seriously, your grandma will be the best person ever. I’m talking about my Momma. She can’t wait to play with you, she’s already ready to spoil you rotten! Just remember to be a little gentle. She’ll love you, no matter what. Don’t scream or fight, because that will get you on her shit list, and that’s not a happy place to be. She’s a wonderful lady, and you will never forget her. She already loves you, and you aren’t even here yet! Be kind to her. She’s all I got.
Don’t be a brat. Just because you’re young now, and Mommy and Daddy get you things, doesn’t mean this is how it’s going to be forever. You are a kind soul and I expect you to show that. Not to show how much of a little spoiled thing you can be. Brats don’t make many friends, remember that.
When you’re old enough, I hope you go to college. Even if you don’t come out with a degree, go, experience that world. Join a sorority or a fraternity, enjoy! But don’t party too much. Be safe! Use the brain that God gave you. If you find out that college isn’t the place for you, that’s ok, but we’ll do something else. Believe me, you want some kind of career. Don’t expect to come home and live on our couch for free. That’s not happening. OK? We love you, but you’re old enough, you don’t need a babysitter or free ride.
Work for what you have. It makes you appreciate things more. Trust me. When people buy you things, it’s much easier to tear it up vs. when you work for the thing yourself, you cherish it better.
Remember that we will always love you, even when you screw up. Mistakes are part of life. And we will love you every bit of the way. But learn from your mistakes. They are lessons in disguise.
When you are old enough, we will have “the talk”. The one that the older kids may be talking about, the one I never got, but you will get the talk and there will be some questions. That’s ok. But just know that if you get “involved”, there might be some consequences. We just don’t want you hurt, love.
Life is an adventure. Don’t waste it. When you are little, go outside. Enjoy the summer, use your imagination. Don’t stay inside all day playing video games, its killing your imagination. When it’s cold or raining, read a book, color, paint, but don’t waste the day. Enjoy the little things. Enjoy yourselves. Enjoy life, you only get one.
Clean your room. It’s amazing what you will find if you pick things up!
Listen to music. It’s all around you. In the air you breathe, in the trees you see, it’s everywhere. Just listen.
Love with all you have. Your family is the one thing that will never change. Friends, they come and go. Crushes, they don’t last forever. When you find the right one, don’t let them go. Don’t let them slip through your fingers, I almost did. Heartbreaks are real, and we will deal with them when they come.
We’re your cheerleaders and coaches. We’re here for support and making game plans.
We’re always here for you. I cannot stress that enough. We love you. We want you to talk to us when you have a problem. Don’t ever think that we won’t understand, chances are, we’ve been there too. It’s ok to ask questions, and it’s ok to disagree with us. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be afraid to come to us with anything.
Remember that you only get one Mommy and Daddy. So be kind, and remember we love you.
With everything we have. We love you.